Many prominent families prepare their adult children for marriage with one document: the prenup.
It protects the family capital on paper. But it rarely makes sure the couple talks through what matters most: money, roles, expectations, and how they’ll raise the next generation in the unusual context of wealth or a family enterprise.
When families skip those conversations, the cost tends to creep up years later. In the marriage, across the wider family, and eventually in how the wealth is held and passed on.
I’m supportive of prenups. But there’s a gap around the current process, and very little support for families, couples or their advisers in filling it.
These conversations matter with or without a prenup. Where there isn’t one, they may matter even more, because nothing else might explicitly set expectations around money, roles, and family life.
I know this world from the inside. In addition to coaching and advising family enterprise leaders and systems, I married into a fifth-generation family enterprise and sit on its family council.
Over the past year I’ve had more than 100 conversations with families, lawyers and advisers about this moment. Out of those, I’ve thoughtfully built two ways to help families welcome a new spouse well, before and alongside the prenup. Both are designed to work with the family’s advisers, not around them:
1) Private, bespoke work with the couple, their advisers, and the wider family where useful
2) A small-group multi-month programme for spouses marrying in, in London, from Q1 2027
You can see more details on the two ways to work with me here.